Thursday, May 23, 2013

We're getting married in how many days?!

Well, obviously I haven't posted in awhile. But I happen to have some free time today and I thought I would take a minute to write out some of my most recent thoughts about my life, my love, and getting married. 

The past few months have been a whirlwind. I feel like that is the most cliche sentence I could use, but I don't know how else to describe it. For those of you who don't know, Alex and I flew to California for our friend's wedding. Alicia and Kyle may be the cutest couple ever (And that should mean something because I think Alex and I are pretty adorable.) Their wedding was beautiful, romantic and super fun. It was a pleasure to be a part of their special day. Leading up to that trip, during the trip and for about a week after that trip, I basically ignored any wedding plans of my own and gave myself a break. It was wonderful.

But now, I am sitting here going, oh, I am getting married in less than 90 days. That is not very many days. I feel like I should be panicking. Or yelling at people about centerpieces. Or crying about not having our vows figured out. Instead, I find myself relaxed and calm, which makes me think there is something seriously wrong with me. But I will take it. 

I think that if there is one thing I have learned over the past 10 months of being engaged, it's that the relationship between Alex and I is more important than the venue, or the flowers, or how early we mail out invitations. I have learned that if we change our mind about the wedding colors halfway through planning, it's not a big deal. And that all the little superficial parts of the wedding are really meaningless when it comes down to it. I learned that above all, Alex and I having a healthy, loving, and Godly relationship is the most important part of all of this. 

Alex and I don't have our whole lives planned out. We don't know what our life as a married couple is going to look like yet. But we do know this: we are in it together. We are a team. And we are confident that God made us to be a team. So, we will be husband and wife. Two people, navigating this crazy life together. 

One final thought. You sometimes hear couples say the phrase, "I can't wait for us to start our life together". And I am sure I have said that before. But really, Alex and I started our life together long before we were even dating. Our life together started when we were teenagers. 
When we met and we both knew we wanted to be friends.